Let me tell you something about the voices inside your head.
You know which ones I’m talking about. The ones that don’t seem to shut up…
For some of us, it is multiple voices constantly jabbering on. What if I told you that you could control those voices?
That you somewhat already are controlling those voices and that those voices determine a great amount of not only your present, but your future.
Cool right!? OR does it sound a little hippy dippy? I hope both because that’s what I’m going for!
I need to let you in on a little secret…
Those voices that you hear, they are your subconscious talking to you. It’s your emotions, feelings, thoughts and stresses all coming together and manifesting in your head. This voice is extremely important. Understanding how to be in charge of that voice will help make your day-to-day life and the future very positive.
But please, do not be scared, intimidated or unsure. It is this realization that will help you get on the path in life that you have so desperately wanted to be on.
How you talk to yourself directly impacts your life. Let me say that again, how you talk to yourself directly impacts your life.
If you are constantly telling yourself that you, “aren’t good enough, smart enough, talented enough, have enough money, or time”. Guess what? You aren’t going to be any of those things. You’ve already discredited yourself and if you don’t believe in your own abilities, why would anybody else?
Let me ask you one more question…
How many times today have you said something to the effect of, “oh, kill me now”? I bet it is more times than you said, “please, keep me alive”. It is these types of sentences, the ones that seem so insignificant and minuscule that make all the difference in our lives.
Here’s another little secret for you. The universe always says, “YES“. Good or bad. Positive or negative. Whatever you ask the universe for, chances are you will receive a resounding, yes.
Now, does this always happen? Like when you ask the universe to win the lotto? No, of course not.
Because 1) you probably haven’t done anything to deserve it, 2) the universe knows exactly how you’ll spend it or 3) lady luck and the universe have other plans for you (which should make you excited).
So, when you have all this negative self-talk going on in your head, the universe keeps answering, “Yes, you aren’t good enough”, “Yes, you don’t have enough money”, Yes, you will never become successful”, “Yes, you won’t find a better job”.
Why would the universe be so mean? Answer: The universe isn’t being mean. It’s giving you exactly what you are telling it.
It’s not fun realizing that you are mostly the reason for why things are the way they are in your life. Shocking right!? Accountability/personal responsibility. Who would have thought?
WELCOME TO ADULTHOOD.
Other people may have played a role here and there, did something to you in one way or another. But, it’s your thoughts and actions after that which determined future outcomes. There are countless stories of extremely happy and successful people who came from the worst environments growing up. I won’t go into listing them here. These success stories are very real and happen every day.
So, why did they become successful and you’re still sitting in your apartment with your b.s. job wondering why life is passing you by?
Answer: Positive Self-Talk
Those people constantly talked to themselves in a positive manner. Even when they were being hard on themselves, they still believed they would figure it out. Without absolute belief in yourself, your abilities, goals and mission, why would anything or anyone – including the universe – believe in you?
You need to take a moment and really ponder this…
What are your positive attributes? What are you contributing to society? Who/where do you want to be in 5, 10, 20 years?
How are you going to get there? Easy.
With absolute belief in yourself and a plan. Compassion and love for yourself. When you begin to tell yourself that you ARE good enough, you ARE smart enough, talented enough and you DO deserve the things you want in life, the transformation will start to take place.
How do you do this? How do you transform your life and talk to yourself in a more positive way?
I recommend three things: meditation, yoga and writing.
Meditation will help you learn to connect and disconnect from your thoughts and inner voice. It will allow you to sit beside the watcher inside your head and see for yourself what the watcher sees. It is here, beside the watcher that you become an audience member to your own life. You step away and view it as a third person. Allowing for new insights and perspectives on not only how you act and think, but how others act and think.
Yoga will help you connect with your body and breath. It will show you your weaknesses and allow you to see your strengths. Yoga will push you to your brink and then bring you back with a belief in yourself like you’ve never had before.
Writing will allow you to log your feelings and thoughts. It is very important to keep a written journal. This is where you begin to grow. When you become mindful of yourself and those around you on a day to day basis, you become more aware. It is in this awareness that you can spot shortcomings, weaknesses. As well as, opportunities and strengths. Writing helps shake out the rest of the cobwebs lingering in the back of your mind. It also allows you to have a hard copy of how you’re feeling in a particular moment, how you overcame and where you eventually arrived.
The importance of positive self-talk cannot be overlooked.
How you talk to yourself and how you perceive yourself will determine where you go in life. Yes, it is easier to be depressed, sad, overwhelmed, stressed, tired, lazy or whatever. It actually takes conscious effort to be driven, happy and successful. It requires hard work, commitment and perseverance. But, so do all things in life that are worth achieving.
Positive self-talk is not easy, especially if you are like me and deal with anxiety and depression. It only makes it that much more difficult and necessary. I spent the first 26 years of my life not believing in myself, my abilities or potential.
I clamored for external validation constantly because internally I only felt invalid. It wasn’t until I became conscious of how I spoke to myself and the energy I put out in the universe that I started to notice a shift in my life.
It was really that simple.
The more love I show myself, the more love the universe shows me. I don’t want to omit the importance of how you talk to and treat your friends, family and even random strangers. Treating those around you with respect will absolutely help you respect yourself.
However, it all starts with you.
Create mantras to repeat to yourself when necessary. Stop and reconnect to your breath, go outside and get away from the glowing screens. Make time for yourself. Even if it’s while you are in the shower. Remind yourself how amazing you are, how grateful you are to be alive and for all that you have. That you are capable of whatever you set your mind to.
Believe in yourself, because I believe in you.
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